How to sharpen your People skills with some really simple steps?

People show you that side of their which they really want you to see while making sure that their true self remains hidden from you. As humans we all have an inbuilt need to be accepted and to feel like we are being valued within a group of people (whether it is the society, workplace or a relationship). May be not always but most of the time we meet people for whom we develop an instant liking and we become comfortable with the idea of befriending them and later due to the unfolding of certain events we see their true colours and we immediately realize how incorrect we were in knowing them or how quickly we formed a positive opinion about them. Once we learn our lessons, we think that we are now better prepared to judge the next person more accurately but surprisingly we end up repeating the same mistake again and fall prey to our misjudgements all over again. This happens because humans are complicated beings, we think differently and we act differently, we have an inner ability to either present one attitude of ours to everyone or different shades of our character to different people. Some people allow behaviour to be governed by logic and brutal practicality and some people give emotions an upper hand over their actions and reactions to people and events in their surroundings. The more we explore human psychology the more we feel like we know nothing or may be quite little about human behaviour.

Here are three keys that will sharpen your people skills:

1. Interact with a variety of people, like introverts as well as extroverts, party animals as well as book lovers and the interaction should be more like a learning for you where you get to witness their thought processes and get to see how they make decisions or what drives them 
2. Never be too judgemental, in fact one should get rid of the habit of forming negative opinions about someone in just a few meetings. Why? Well, once you make up your mind about “How they are?” and “Why are they like this?”, one’s mind gets closed off to the learning process that I’ve earlier talked about
3. Finally, you need to be like a mirror to them and be the most trustworthy guy around them so that they too will be comfortable in lowering their defences and will allow you to witness their individualism. The more closer you get, the more you learn about them and the more you learn the more you sharpen your people skill